How do I influence others?
What is true success, and how will I measure it?
"I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith:”
You will read more about "The Influence Pyramid" from The Anatomy of Peace and how you, as a leader, can continue to have a heart of peace and influence others to do the same. We explore what success is in your life and how you measure it.
You will read the final three chapters of The Anatomy of Peace this week. The final part is called "Spreading Peace." It talks about influencing others and helping others feel peace and the Influence Pyramid.
As you study the Influence Pyramid, consider any misbehavior that you are currently trying to change. Perhaps you have a child or a team member who is misbehaving in some way. Consider the following questions:
If you have already sought to correct the behavior, but it hasn’t worked, in what way could you apply principles from further down the pyramid to help motivate the person to choose to change?
As we look back on our lives, all of us have likely observed that it can be incredibly difficult to change our habits and behaviors. How many of us have set new year’s resolutions at the beginning of a year, only to find that we have faltered only days, perhaps only hours later?
If changing our own habits and behavior is so difficult, it stands to reason that changing habits and behaviors in others is even more difficult.
The Influencer Model, by VitalSmarts (name recently changed to CrucialLearning), applies the research and conclusions of a world-renowned behavioral psychologist out of Standford University, Albert Bandura, to help leaders develop a framework that makes changing habits and behaviors much more likely. For a deep dive into the Influencer model, we strongly recommend the book, Influencer, by Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, David Maxfield, Ron McMullin, and Al Switzler. For this chapter, please read the following summary of the Influencer model and how it works to enable change in people and organizations:
READ: The Influencer Change Framework–The Power to Change Anything
The Influencer model and theory demonstrates that when leaders exercise multiple sources of influence to motivate change, the likelihood of successful change is greater. In fact, in the following study conducted with the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) “How to 10X Your Influence,” the authors of the study conclude that when leaders exercise at least 4 of the 6 sources of influence described in the model, the likelihood of successful change increases by ten times.
Consider the following:
Clearly, if we wish to succeed in any goal or project, we must know what we are trying to achieve. If we then measure our progress toward that end, our likelihood of success and the speed of our progress will improve dramatically. But what about our life itself? How can we measure the success of an entire life?
Clayton Christensen was a Harvard Business School professor until he passed away in 2020. His professional achievements were impressive, including being recognized in 2011 and 2013 by Thinkers 50 as the most influential business thinker on earth. Also, Forbes called him "one of the most influential business theorists of the last 50 years." He was a faithful member of the Church. He published many books, including his most famous book, “The Innovator’s Dilemma” in which he introduced the theory of disruptive innovation to the world. He was respected, honored, and loved by his colleagues and by people all over the world for his impact as a professional.
However, Clayton was also clear that his priorities rested first with God, with his family, and with the service he gave and the love he showed as he sought to lift the people within his circle of influence. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, he worked tirelessly to share the gospel with students, colleagues, and even shared the gospel openly in venues normally reserved for non-religious conversation, such as when Forbes magazine interviewed him following his recognition as the top business thinker in the world. Rather that discussing pure business theory, the interviews led to conversations about him praying for God’s help to make it through serious health complications, the relationship between science and religion, and how God and the truth can lead us to have personal courage. To see clips from his conversations with Forbes Magazine, follow this link (C Christensen Forbes Interview), or search “Clayton Christensen Forbes” on YouTube.
Clayton Christensen was an outstanding example of a disciple-leader in the way he taught, loved his students, shared the gospel with others, and gave of himself to make the world a better place. Among his outstanding professional works, he also sought to help people learn how to share their faith, including his book and accompanying website, “The Power of Everyday Missionaries.” He also sought to teach the world new paradigms about how to lift the poor of our world in his book “The Prosperity Paradox: How Innovation Can Lift Nations Out of Poverty.” One of the reasons he was able to live such an exemplary life and to have such tremendous impact for good in the world was that he understood his purpose in life and he had a clear way to measure his success in achieving that purpose.
In 2010, Clayton spoke to the 2010 graduating class of the Harvard Business School on the topic, “How Will You Measure Your Life.” He was invited to give a TED talk in 2012 on the same subject. That talk was so influential that Forbes Magazine invited him to publish an article and followed with several interviews on the subject, as referenced previously. Lastly, Clayton worked with two of his former students to write a book of the same title: “How Will You Measure Your Life?”
We highly recommend the book as it takes the reader into a more in-depth look at powerful theories of how things work in the business world, and then applies those theories (or statements of true principles) to how we can make decisions to live our lives in way that will make the achievement of what truly matters most (family, integrity, living with purpose) more likely. The following list includes some of the truths taught in the book:
Clayton Christensen’s TED talk, which is a short version of what is shared in the book, is included here:
In the video below, he shares his thoughts on "How Will You Measure Your Life."
In his TED talk, Clayton gives each of us a warning: “Whenever you have an extra ounce of energy and time, you’ll allocate it to whatever activities in your life give you the most tangible, immediate evidence of achievement.” In other words, if we aren’t careful to actively choose to devote our time to the things matter deeply and that only show rewards over the long-term (like marriage, relationships with children, our faith and devotion to serving others) we will end up devoting our time to the things that we know will bring an immediate or short-term reward (like working extra time to get the praise and admiration of our boss and colleagues).
This doesn’t mean that we should never devote extra time at work to achieve an important objective, but it does mean that we need to consistently “check in” with ourselves, with God, with our families, and with others we care about to be sure we are spending the right amount of time on the goals and measures that will lead to the greatest happiness in the long term.
The following questions are examples of questions for which, if we open our hearts and seek Heaven’s guidance, will lead us to a clear vision of our life’s purpose and how we can measure the true success of our lives:
Example of Christ: Jesus Acclaims John the Baptist / Come Unto Me | |
WATCH Jesus Acclaims John the Baptist/ Come Unto Me or READ Matthew 11:1-30. In verses 28-30 Jesus offers his oft repeated invitation “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Consider the power of Jesus’ invitation as you continue your disciple-leadership journey throughout your life. Ponder these questions:
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As we each progress along the road of discipleship and seek to lead others as He would, we will surely face challenges that are at times, hard to bear. We must ask ourselves today, and in the future, whether we believe these promises of rest, an easy yoke, and a light burden. As we continually come unto Him, we will find that by yoking ourselves with Him, we find a perfect example, a reliable friend who willingly gives us His strength, and a Redeemer who gave His life that our tomorrows may always be filled with the promise of all His Father hath.
Endure to the end well.
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